INTJ & "sensitivity"

[Whateverman]

I have to reiterate: for the purposes of this thread, sensitivity is not the same as sentimentality. It's more about the ease with which you're disturbed (or "aroused", as the book refers to it) by your environment and your interaction with it.

Regardless, this has been an interesting conversation...

[Photosynthesis]

Yep, but somehow the way everybody is talking about it it sounds like sentimentality.

I just took the test again. INTJ. I had forgotten.

G.E.

[Quasar]

Heh heh, sorry for going off on the pet bird tangent.

I was probably thinking "sentimental" as well when I responded.

[jupiter]

WEM wrote:
Sensitivity (regardless of the subject of the book) is much more than whether you feel insulted or hurt as the result of something another person said. It also includes empathy, the extent to which busy social situations affect you negatively, the need to retreat (be alone, quiet) in order to rebuild energy, etc.

This is personal opinion, of course. However, I feel "sensitivity" can be an asset as well as a liability.

[jupiter]

StewartP wrote:

I am so not an empath. And I am very aware of this failing.

When people have problems and are hurt and suffering I don't get moved. Most often the things that stir me to greatest emotion are self-centered. I get depressed over MY situation, or how a change in relationships affect ME.

On the other hand, watching the Rememberence Day marchpast at the cenotaph will make me cry.

And I can empathise and sympathise more easily with strangers on the net than I can with my own family and friends.

It's crap isn't it?

That's interesting Stewart. Hence our responses to each other regarding the, ummmmmm' discussion about animal testing.

It would be cool if we could switch places for a day....see what it would feel like to view the world from a completely different perspective. Strangely, now that I think about it, as much as I feel *burdened* with this sensitivity....I don't think I would change it.

[Whateverman]

Strangely, now that I think about it, as much as I feel *burdened* with this sensitivity....I don't think I would change it.

Me either, though there's a caveat:

If there's one thing I would change, it's that I'd have realized this much much earlier in my life. It took me way to long too understand (and know how to handle) it

[StewartP]

That's interesting Stewart. Hence our responses to each other regarding the, ummmmmm' discussion about animal testing.

It would be cool if we could switch places for a day....see what it would feel like to view the world from a completely different perspective. Strangely, now that I think about it, as much as I feel *burdened* with this sensitivity....I don't think I would change it.

Isn't it? Reading the thread by Tilia and Kaitlyn on depression, breaks my heart, but I don't know what to say or how to express it so I say nothing. You're in there both feet with excellent stuff.

[Milo]

Isn't it? Reading the thread by Tilia and Kaitlyn on depression, breaks my heart, but I don't know what to say or how to express it so I say nothing. You're in there both feet with excellent stuff.

Ditto

[E-lad]

Jupiter,

It would be cool if we could switch places for a day....see what it would feel like to view the world from a completely different perspective. Strangely, now that I think about it, as much as I feel *burdened* with this sensitivity....I don't think I would change it.

In a certain way, I get to do this every day, when I choose to do so. As some of my blog cronies here know, my wife is 90% extroverted, so I get to look through that lens, when I wish to. These extroverts say things like, "Don't worry, it will work out."
I says, "Do you have a plan?" says she, "No, but I just know it will all work out." Infuriating..at best.

So, you say, "Dale, how in the hobbs of hell did you ever get hooked up with a chick that is basically your personality opposite?"

Value systems, Grasshopper. Personalities are like what we find on blogs, outward appearance, and Character is like an operating system, the rules in which we operate the other systems. Personalities represent our outward appearance. Character is represented by our value systems and our commitment to them, including our intellectual honesty and ability to be introspective, the later being the tricky part.

My wife and I were lucky enough, early on, to recognize that our value systems lined up in a parallel manner. To me, that is what made enduring her , and indeed endearing her to me, almost rather tolerable

[Whateverman]

My Mom and my Pop were attracted to each other in part because they're polar opposites. They compliment each other in interesting ways...