Milo wrote:E-lad wrote:Yeah, the next thing he'll be saying that his daughter didn't have to make him that mad!
They always blame it on the victim. They deserved it.
In one of his rulings from the bench he ruled that a child should never be believed over the story of the parent.
I noticed in the video that the daughter refused to turn over at the father's command and that infuriated him almost as much as her original crime. I don't know if she was deliberately provoking him or not. The instinct to maintain some control and dignity in a situation like that is strong. I would imagine the punishment would have been a lot shorter and milder if she had submitted. That is no excuse, the father was totally in the wrong.
What I find interesting and disturbing is the number of people who defend their parents for spanking/beating. First, this wasn't discipline. It was a grown man out of control. The foul language alone would have been abusive. Second of all, the concept that beating another person is acceptable behavior is crazy. It is illegal to assault another person. Whether or not that person is related to you should not be a mitigating factor. It seems that people who have been beaten as children are often supportive of the practice. Strange.
I am way out of my element on long term effects of childhood spankings, but I intuitively feel that a swat on the ass at a certain age probably does not do much harm. But these outright beatings and emotional abuse are different. People that say, "I was spanked as a kid and I'm OK," don't stop to think of how they may have turned out had they not been abused, and the difference between a couple swats with the wooden spoon and being beaten with a belt regularly over a long period of time.
I am told by my daughter that there is always a certain amount of abnormal behavior persistence in adults that were abused as a child (again- as opposed to an occasional, controlled spanking) even when they appear well adjusted. They usually suffer from one of the many forms of neurosis. One of the main ones is an inability to change one's life patterns (although they may fall within the norm), and the inability to develop a richer, more complex, more satisfying personality. So your observation about abuse victims supporting the practice seems to support the neurosis theory.